CaroleDeLaOsaI was watching “YouTube” the other day and I came across a video talking about fleas in a jar (it was called Jar of Fleas), The title so intrigued me that I stopped and watched.

Its amazing what you can learn from a flea. When you first put a flea in a jar and tightly screw on the lid, the flea will try to jump as high as it can. It doesn’t know it’s being trained.

But, soon after the flea is no longer trying to get out. It has become complacent to just fly around. It’s accepted it’s limits.

From that point on, even when you take off the lid, the flea will never , ever jump any higher than the perceived lid.

In my experience I find women over the age of 50- look to start a new walk in life.

But like the flea jumping in the jar, they have become complacent. They aren’t sure what path to take.

I hear I took a buyout, or I was downsized or I just realized- I can do whatever I want to do in life- BUT.... I don’t know what that is? These words can be terrifying or they can be liberating. The choice is yours.

Each day we are faced with choices, it’s a simple fact. We only have 24 hours each day. With those 24 hours we make choices. Choices about how much to allocate to work, errands, planning, daydreaming. How do we fit in sleep and relaxation?

Not sure what path to take in life is like being in the jar with the lid on top. A familiar recurring theme is feeling overwhelmed, that there is just too much to do. Do you feel like you have failed? What is that really? Fear of not being “productive” not being on top of things? Or could it be not living up to your potential?

I’ve watched countless people struggle with losing control of the plans they laid out- Why? because they attempted to fill their 24 hours with as much as possible to literally fall into bed at night to do it all over the next day!

There is another way- Build a Better You! It’s a process, Yes, only because it takes time to learn what your flow of energy is.

Here is an exercise to do:

Grab a pad, Set your timer for 10 minutes, and then quietly, close your eyes for a moment and relax. The first issue that pops in your mind- Open your eyes and write it down, Then

1. Look for new options- just list them- don’t judge them.

2. Think about the possibilities- I encourage you to believe YOU can create a change.

3. Most Importantly- Take an action. Preferably one that came up in your possibility list or not but take action!

I encourage you to stop hitting the “lid of the jar”

Generate change, question your basic beliefs- Get Unstuck. For within you is the answer and you hold the key.

Carole DeLaOsa, Transition4You
Effecting Change by Conscious Choice

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